fix(gateway): track background task references in GatewayRunner (#3254)

Asyncio tasks created with create_task() but never stored can be
garbage collected mid-execution. Add self._background_tasks set to
hold references, with add_done_callback cleanup. Tracks:
- /background command task
- session-reset memory flush task
- session-resume memory flush task
Cancel all pending tasks in stop().

Update test fixtures that construct GatewayRunner via object.__new__()
to include the new _background_tasks attribute.

Cherry-picked from PR #3167 by memosr. The original PR also deleted
the DM topic auto-skill loading code — that deletion was excluded
from this salvage as it removes a shipped feature (#2598).

Co-authored-by: memosr.eth <96793918+memosr@users.noreply.github.com>

tests/gateway/test_background_command.py

@@ -38,6 +38,7 @@ def _make_runner():
     runner._provider_routing = {}
     runner._fallback_model = None
     runner._running_agents = {}
+    runner._background_tasks = set()
 
     mock_store = MagicMock()
     runner.session_store = mock_store

tests/gateway/test_gateway_shutdown.py

@@ -72,6 +72,7 @@ async def test_gateway_stop_interrupts_running_agents_and_cancels_adapter_tasks(
     runner._exit_reason = None
     runner._pending_messages = {"session": "pending text"}
     runner._pending_approvals = {"session": {"command": "rm -rf /tmp/x"}}
+    runner._background_tasks = set()
     runner._shutdown_all_gateway_honcho = lambda: None
 
     adapter = StubAdapter()

tests/gateway/test_session_race_guard.py

@@ -39,6 +39,7 @@ def _make_runner():
     runner._pending_messages = {}
     runner._pending_approvals = {}
     runner._voice_mode = {}
+    runner._background_tasks = set()
     runner._is_user_authorized = lambda _source: True
     return runner