feat(plugins): make all plugins opt-in by default

Plugins now require explicit consent to load. Discovery still finds every
plugin — user-installed, bundled, and pip — so they all show up in
`hermes plugins` and `/plugins`, but the loader only instantiates
plugins whose name appears in `plugins.enabled` in config.yaml. This
removes the previous ambient-execution risk where a newly-installed or
bundled plugin could register hooks, tools, and commands on first run
without the user opting in.

The three-state model is now explicit:
  enabled     — in plugins.enabled, loads on next session
  disabled    — in plugins.disabled, never loads (wins over enabled)
  not enabled — discovered but never opted in (default for new installs)

`hermes plugins install <repo>` prompts "Enable 'name' now? [y/N]"
(defaults to no). New `--enable` / `--no-enable` flags skip the prompt
for scripted installs. `hermes plugins enable/disable` manage both lists
so a disabled plugin stays explicitly off even if something later adds
it to enabled.

Config migration (schema v20 → v21): existing user plugins already
installed under ~/.hermes/plugins/ (minus anything in plugins.disabled)
are auto-grandfathered into plugins.enabled so upgrades don't silently
break working setups. Bundled plugins are NOT grandfathered — even
existing users have to opt in explicitly.

Also: HERMES_DISABLE_BUNDLED_PLUGINS env var removed (redundant with
opt-in default), cmd_list now shows bundled + user plugins together with
their three-state status, interactive UI tags bundled entries
[bundled], docs updated across plugins.md and built-in-plugins.md.

Validation: 442 plugin/config tests pass. E2E: fresh install discovers
disk-cleanup but does not load it; `hermes plugins enable disk-cleanup`
activates hooks; migration grandfathers existing user plugins correctly
while leaving bundled plugins off.

hermes_cli/main.py

@@ -7449,6 +7449,17 @@ Examples:
         action="store_true",
         help="Remove existing plugin and reinstall",
     )
+    _install_enable_group = plugins_install.add_mutually_exclusive_group()
+    _install_enable_group.add_argument(
+        "--enable",
+        action="store_true",
+        help="Auto-enable the plugin after install (skip confirmation prompt)",
+    )
+    _install_enable_group.add_argument(
+        "--no-enable",
+        action="store_true",
+        help="Install disabled (skip confirmation prompt); enable later with `hermes plugins enable <name>`",
+    )
 
     plugins_update = plugins_subparsers.add_parser(
         "update", help="Pull latest changes for an installed plugin"